The big debate: The Ex. I've heard so many viewpoints on this I thought I'd share my own. Being tight with your ex can cause so many problems, it's best to keep this relationship to an acquaintance at best. You once had a strong connection - can you really move on if you still see the person all the time? Will your new gf/bf be accepting of this or be put in an awkward position? This constant reminder of the past can be quite threatening to a new partner.
Sure it’s the mature thing to be able to communicate civily, send birthday notes or inquire about their family. Sending valentines thoughts, visiting all the time, and hanging out how you used to are not acceptable. In my experience, one half of the ex-couple still has feelings for the other. They then believe that staying friends can create a chance to re-kindle that romance. These expectations should NOT be set up – you break up for a reason, unless it’s a mistake or misunderstanding and in that case, rules don’t apply. Let GO of your ex and move on! You never know what great stuff is out there!